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Original Post: https://betterpeoplepodcast.com/2021/04/april-26th-2021-building-your-core-part-ii-youre-in-control-of-you/
Last week we talked about starting your morning with journaling. Journaling is a great way to organize your thoughts of the day and find balance. Be sure you continue to do so. We also talked about the book, "The 5AM Club: Own Your Morning. Elevate Your Life." by Robin Sharma. If you missed it, check out Episode 1.
We're continuing this week with Building Our Core.
Imagine a situation where you lose your job, money, and family. At the end of the day, who are you? Would you continue to be kind to others in the same way you did before? That's the question. It's really a hypothetical one, but it's good to think about these things so you can set boundaries and the "lows" at which you'll still be a good human. I also hope we don't have to face these circumstances, but I know people have and do, far too often. A common theme though is many who have hit rock bottom and rose again say the experience taught them a lot about themselves and made them better people.
The world owes us nothing. Nor is the world out to get you. The world doesn't really care. I don't mean that to sound negative. Sure there are people in the world who may have a grievance, and sure, there are people who do care about you, but in general, there's not some cosmic force plotting to ruin your life. All the feelings of anger you may feel are simply the way you choose to react. Choose to react negatively, and guess what you'll feel negative. Choose to see the event as an opportunity for growth, and that is what it will be.
People will be mean to you, sometimes on purpose, but most of the time, it's just because they are living their lives, just like you. Day-to-day, they're not thinking about how their actions will affect you, and it's really not their responsibility to do so. It's up to you to choose how to react.
There are definitely toxic people out there, but more often we use our perception of an event to tell us how to feel instead of saying "Perhaps this person is unaware of their actions, perhaps they've had a bad day and aren't aware of the image they are projecting." Keep in mind, the only person you can change is yourself. You cannot change a person, only the way you react to them.
Someone at work says something we interpret to mean they're against us or mad, or trying to assert themselves over us. Our reaction is to get mad. Maybe that is their intention, it's most often not, but let's say it is. Why are you giving control over your emotions to them? Stop it! You control how you feel.
Is all of this easier said than done? It sure is. I have my struggles. Perhaps there's a project update or reply to the boss I'm prepared to make, and then someone else beats me to it. I have to tell myself the end result is more important, not who shared it. I know that sounds petty, but that's one item I hear come up from others, and what I just said about "The overall result is what's important." is exactly what I say. So why shouldn't I follow my own advice?
This week's takeaway is simply this. Define who you can be at life's worst moments. Is it someone you can still be proud of? And remember, you control your thoughts. The world isn't plotting against you. Keep waking up early, keep updating your journal, and keep trying to be a better person.
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